When I think of a hero I immediately think about Batman, or Thor, or some other caped crusader. What I want though is to rewire my brain to see the average person as a hero. It is likely around 90% more likely that I will encounter an average person before I will Christian Bale in the bat suit. So shouldn’t we reposition what a hero means to us so we aren’t let down? What is a hero? Webster says:
- Humanity (not holier than thou)
When I meet someone that exercises these traits I just find them so intriguing. The cool thing? They stand out like a water fountain in the desert. They are super easy to find no matter where you are and they might even be easier to find in the rougher places.
When I think of those traits I ask myself why they are heroes. What about those traits makes them powerful to me? It’s because of influence. These are traits I can take up myself and implement in my own life. They are alive! They produce emotions and connections. They are influential:
Anyone can be influential. Anyone can be a hero. Your good deeds done without the clanging cymbals are so powerful for the people that see. People doing the right thing just because it’s the right thing. No rewards, all intrinsic. It’s powerful. Doesn’t the parent who cares for their sick child and does their best to resume a normal life for them just pull at your heart strings? Doesn’t it make us all go hug our well kids real tight? Things like that are so contagious-and so simple. A person that steps up or stays out when others drift off and run create a platform for themselves to connect and empower other people.
As a 90’s kid I am (obviously) a Foo Fighters fan. In their song “My Hero,” Dave Grohl wrote:
“There goes my hero, he’s ordinary.
Don’t the best of them bleed it out
While the rest of them peter out.”
Take a moment to reminisce in this beautiful and nostalgic memory here:
As a fellow friend, dad, son, and husband, I want to encourage everyone that you can be a hero to any one of these incredibly important life roles. Imagine yourself inspiring a dad or a husband. Can you feel the weight of their importance now?
Friends: you can choose not talk about others..I promise, people will notice. The right people will follow you.
Dads: the way you connect with your kids in their learning and teaching them rather than pawning that job off to mom is much louder than you think. Your commitment to your kids translates into their behavior at school and then later in their own homes. You are influencing your kids, your kids friends, your kids wife or husband-all because of your commitment and responsibility.
Husbands: your faithfulness to your wife has the power to influence that divorce statistic we all wish we could do something about (please pick up on this cue. Hint: it starts with you.)
Couples: your openness and honesty about things you encountered or overcame in your marriage may just change the minds of that couple dancing the line of divorce.
These are the real life super hero roles-the ones that pull people together and create faith, hope, and love. The feel-good stories in the world are about the average person being rewarded because they did the right thing. They waited patiently, they worked hard, they stuck with it. You don’t have to be wealthy, you don’t have to have gadgets, you don’t have to have a special platform..you just need what you have, where you are.