Sensitive People: We Need You

“Sensitive” has long been a bad word thrown around by those with a missing sense of self control. To be sensitive is to be quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences. It can also be defined as having a delicate appreciation for the feelings of others.

I was often bullied for being sensitive as a child and even as a young adult. That never really changed, I just quit caring I just learned to appreciate it. How many of you have lowered yourselves for the same thing? Sensitive is perceived in society as weak, as whiny, as “soft”. There certainly is a line of being overly vocal about your own discomforts. Boundaries are necessary, as with anything, but sensitivity in its nature is so beautiful.

Sensitive people have so much to teach us about experiencing things and about connecting with people. Let’s taco ’bout it.

They care deeply..about everything.

Since sensitive people are so aware of their every feeling, they feel they must process each event they witness. They might tell you that they can’t go through a grocery store checkout withoutchecking on” the cashier. Or that they can’t pass a comment in a social media group that might point to someone’s personal struggle and outreach. They pick up on things that others miss. As a result, if you have a sensitive friend, they probably tell you that people randomly share openly with them. Is it really any secret? That sensitivity is perceived on the other side as trustworthy, and warm.

They are experts of self control.

Since sensitive people are dying to be understood and cared for themselves, you will spot their patience easily. Patience is a fruit of self control. This patience is a skill they have developed over the course of their lives. Their awareness of anger or tension in a room leads them to avoid certain behaviors they feel will cause that discomfort for someone else.

They are highly intelligent.

That awareness of “weight” in the room puts a sensitive person on high alert. As such, they are more aware of their own mind and body. This awareness leads to a level of self-control that others cannot imagine. Others likely know nothing about what is going on in a room, while a sensitive person “feels” everyone in there, along with themselves. They might think in “process”, projecting what may happen with this response or that behavior, yet choosing to be present at the same time flowing with the room. They are often fully in control of situations they find themselves in despite revealing shyness or awkwardness.

They demonstrate purity.

A sensitive person likely can’t even watch a rated R movie. Whether it’s for the violence, the sexuality, the language. Something makes them uncomfortable to the point that (hopefully) they speak up. Their moral compass is always with them as their ideals are quite loud and rigid. Some of them speak up, others might let it slide if they’re less confrontational, but just know, they’re bothered one way or the other.

Many people hone in on this as a “weakness” and something to just shrug off. The truth is that we are all impacted by what we intake, and those that speak up do so for all of us.

They want to help the world.

Highly developed sensitive people often become empaths. As such, they will use these skills to make others feel safe and comfortable, which can lead to something simple like connection, or something serious like the restoration or preservation of a life. They feel deeply for the world they are part of. Their challenge will be having a firm grasp on their own identity as they get mixed up in the world of emotion of others.

Sensitive people show us what caring looks like, what discipline and purity look like, as well as give us grace when we think we have it all together. We could all benefit from surrounding ourselves with those who have learned to balance their sensitivity with healthy boundaries. May they rub off on all of us, and see the world heal.

I am a sensitive person. I hope that reading this has helped you embrace a part of you that you may have rejected for some time now. You are needed.

Author: Kyle Blevins

I am a husband and dad to three boys. I am in operational leadership for one of the major insurance carriers where I enjoy improving processes and coaching people. My other passion is in writing. I love when people reach out to tell me how something I have shared has helped them. I hope to hear from you in some way, too.

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  1. Hi Kyle,
    I totally relate to your spelling bee story. I too was in a similar situation. My competition was girls against boys in 2nd grade and I was the last girl. The pressure I felt was tremendous. I was so relieved to hear my word was ink. And I quickly said, I-N-C-K. Why I put the “c” in there I will never know…What I do know is I never participated in a spelling bee again. While I’m sorry you had to go through that experience, I was so grateful to see after all these years, I wasn’t the only one who maybe because of nerves made a mistake. I wasn’t “alone”.
    Two days ago I discovered that I am a HSP. So you can imagine how devastating that experience was to me. How I let down all my girl classmates etc.
    I was surprised to see here that you said you were a sensitive person too. My discovery of the HSP information is life changing. For the first time I feel “normal”. I’ve been told so many other things as well as I realized myself I didn’t think like others, and felt things deeper than others. I thanked God that He blessed me with this uncommon gift. Although I wish He identified it sooner for me, I know His timing is perfect.

    Take care and thank you,
    Susan

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    1. Susan, thank you so much for sharing! How nice to share a similar spelling bee experience. That embarrassment stuck with me for years but it’s so nice to see the silver lining that the really strong feelings are actually a good thing. I love that you see that now as well. Wishing you all the best and thank you for the comment. They make writing feel so rewarding to show a connection.

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